Tuesday, December 13, 2016

10 Things I Learned in My First 3 Months of Being a Mom

I'm only a 3-month old mom but I've already acquired so much knowledge. Boy, they are right when they said that experience is the best teacher. It's been a wonderful ride so far and I am enjoying every bit of the journey. While I am no expert, I do like keeping it real so, for moms out there who are looking for a non-expert opinion on the realities of having their first kid, here are 10 things that I've learned over the last few months that I can pass on to new moms.

Meet Mikey. This is my favorite photo of him so I am sharing it, hoping it will bring a smile to your face!

1. No matter how careful you are, baby spit will eventually find its way to your jeans. And your top. Hair too. Ok, everything within 1 meter of your child.

2. If you were the kind of person who would look at your own feces after defecating before having a kid, you will find yourself obsessing more about your baby's poops. The color. The texture. The frequency. And, it will make you happy if everything matches as normal on the baby poop chart - yes, that chart exists.

            2.1 Explosive baby poops (plus bonus pee) is a rite of passage for every new mom.



3. They grow so fast. Last week, Mikey fit comfortably in his 0-3 months old PJs. Last night, he was bursting out of it. Not too sure what happened within the last 3 days... It's like he's a deflated tire and someone just pumped air in him!

4. You will master the art of 5-minute showers. The shampoo that drips to your body could be used as a shower gel. A long bath is a luxury.

5. Your body will get used to little sleep. A woman's body is amazing. It can adjust to any situation, it can give life and nourishment. It can also function with little rest all powered by love.

6. Hand-me-downs from mommy friends and family are God sent. While I enjoy (and can't resist!) shopping for new, cute clothes for Mikey, the reality is he grows out of them quickly. Sometimes I have to phase out clothes that he has only worn twice! If you're going to be smart about it, accept all hand-me-downs that are given to you OR, join a Facebook mom buy and sell group and purchase second hand items - they are usually in great condition because babies grow like weeds.

7. The first day back to work from maternity leave is tough. It helps to keep in mind that the issue is more your separation anxiety than anything else. Chances are, he is fine and happy for as long as his needs are being met and at the end of the day, that's all that matters.

9. Breastfeeding does not come naturally for mom and baby. Both of you will have to work for your milk. If I could turn back time, I would start pumping a week (or weeks) before my due date to stimulate my milk production, and, I would have taken a class - I actually paid for a breastfeeding class but the same day I was supposed to go, Mikey decided to arrive. Life happens (literally and figuratively!)

10. It gets better every day. When I was pregnant, people kept telling me how wonderful it is and how everything is perfect. I wish someone told me the other realities of being a new parent. Yes, it is beautiful and amazing, but, it is also hard work. Figuring out how a newborn functions (unfortunately, they do not come with manuals); the sleepless nights, the anxiety of wondering if you're doing the right thing, the paranoia that comes with not knowing if you're doing things correctly, which leads you to keep checking if your baby's breathing every so often - trust me, you will do this more than you should. However, nothing good comes easy and, it does get better.

This list will probably get longer as time progress but for now, those are my top of mind. Do you have anything else to add to my list?

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