Friday, April 21, 2017

Why I Stopped Obsessing About Baby Milestones

I stopped obsessing with hitting milestones and it has helped with my anxiety... a lot. New moms like myself see milestones as a form of assurance that baby is thriving. To some degree, yes, absolutely. However, each child is different and they grow and learn new things in their own time - all we can do is guide and help them along the way.

Aside from measuring baby’s development with every milestone, there’s also this unsaid connection of hitting milestones as mom’s (and dad’s) personal gauge of success that they’re doing parenthood correctly.

Honestly, I beat myself too much for every little thing. I work a full-time job as a digital marketing professional and being in a demanding, fast-paced industry, I have a lot in my mind but I obviously prioritize my role as a mother. When St. Patrick’s Day came rolling in, I didn’t think much of it and brought Mikey to daycare only to realize that everyone else was wearing green in honor of the holiday…. All except my son. Thankfully, we accidentally took the bright green binky with us. Must have been our lucky day. And, as you can imagine, I was relentless on myself and was bummed about forgetting to dress him up according to the occasion. I know he does not care at all. But still. How could I have allowed him to be the only one not dressed in green?


The luck of the Non-Irish: Forgetting to dress up my baby in green on St. Patrick’s Day but picking up the right colored pacifier. 

Wednesday, April 19, 2017

What would you do when you're sleepy AND hungry

At 7 months old, Mikey continues to surprise me. He has grown to become a happy baby. Rarely fussy. There are really only 2 things that make him cry:

1. When we pull him out of the water after his swim class. You read that right, swim class. My husband and I decided to enroll him in a group swim class (he is of course, accompanied by my husband) so he will grow to love the water. My husband and I are big fans of the ocean and this is something that we'd like to enjoy with our child in the future.

2. When his food is late, even for just 2 minutes. Mikey's stomach is like clock work. He knows when meal time is and begins to whimper when it's feeding time. The people at our Daycare put it best:

"Mikey is rarely upset, though, we have come to realize that the only time he really cries is when his food is late. If it's two minutes late, forget it, he will start banging on the table! We learned the hard way."

Photo proof below.

"Where is my food?"

Anyway. There was one evening when I was feeding Mikey dinner but he was so exhausted from all the daycare fun. He was sleepy and hungry. And like every adult I know, he chose to do both. Watch this video, I swear it's worth your 1 minute.


Sleepy but hungry from Miles Bonanno on Vimeo.
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